If you are reading this in the quiet hours of the night, holding a heavy heart and wondering when the pain will finally stop, I want to tell you something you might not have heard yet: You are not doing this wrong. When we lose someone we love, well-meaning friends, books, and movies often tell us about the "five stages of grief." We are told we will move from denial to anger, bargain a little, dip into depression, and finally arrive at a neat little finish line called accept